Balancing Self-Respect and Altruism: A Personal Reflection

Growing up with a compassionate and generous mother, I was inspired to emulate her selfless nature, believing that sharing our blessings with others was a noble endeavor. As an adult, I embraced this philosophy, finding joy in helping those in need without any expectations in return. However, recent experiences have left me pondering if my intentions were misunderstood or if my actions were perceived as intrusive.

Encountering someone with a different perspective on giving has been challenging. Despite my sincere desire to assist and bring happiness, my offers were rejected, and I was labeled as bothersome and stubborn. A recent incident where I attempted to support a close friend during their battle with COVID-19 left me feeling hurt, not just due to the rejection, but because my efforts seemed unappreciated.

Facing similar situations before, I question whether I should cease offering help altogether. Should I focus solely on my own needs and forego aiding others?

However, amidst this confusion, I recognize the importance of finding a balance between self-respect and altruism. It is crucial to remember that my desire to help comes from a place of genuine care, and while some may not understand or accept it, there are others who genuinely appreciate my efforts.

Perhaps it is time to reflect on the situations where my assistance is genuinely valued and reciprocated, rather than dwelling on the instances where it is not. It might be beneficial to recognize that people have varying perspectives on receiving help, and my actions, even when well-intentioned, may not always align with their needs or preferences.

Instead of withdrawing from being generous, I should exercise discernment in identifying those who genuinely welcome and benefit from my support. Understanding that not everyone may embrace my approach to giving is essential for preserving my emotional well-being.

In conclusion, I am on a journey of self-discovery, learning to navigate the delicate balance between self-respect and altruism. While some may not fully comprehend my intentions, I should remain true to my compassionate nature, recognizing that there are individuals who value and cherish the kindness I offer. By being mindful of whom I extend help to, I can continue spreading positivity while safeguarding my emotional boundaries.

By retaining these photos as mementos of today's events, I acknowledge the need to learn from my experiences and grow from them. They serve as reminders of the lessons I should take to heart moving forward.

By Ruchel Gagarin Oasan (歐善璐)